Why should you not cheat?

Why should you not cheat? There are many mind boggling questions that we face throughout life and one of them can be this. To cheat or not to cheat. Most precisely when you have the chance to cheat. Many people ask this question during slow phases of their relationship. When their significant other is not much giving heed to their needs or requirements.
There is a certain stereotype that surrounds cheaters. It goes something like this: cheaters are terrible monsters who are selfish and only care about themselves.
Here are the reasons why you shouldn't cheat:

1. First of all, you are not a Sleazebag, and you don't want to be one too. Wasn't it simple. Remember when you used to dream about your future self. you never imagined yourself to be a sleazebag, because that's something you always hated. even though sleazebag gets girl most of the times, but you just cant stoop to that level. am i right or not.
2. Its not worth it. Its never worth it. The thing you have with your present partner is far too much sacred and fun to be messing with. Okay i admit its not looking like much fun right now, but its still love isn't it. Remember trust once broken can never be earned back.
3. Its just a phase and it will pass. Just hold on a little bit longer.
4. And do you really wanna go into that dating struggle. Its a jungle out there mate. And i don't know whats your perception of jungle, but i don't think its a fun thing. That's why people use the phrase,'its a jungle out there'. Despite there being billions of people in this world, it’s hard finding people who you can open up to, and completely trust with your heart.
5. Think about how she or he would feel. The person whose faith you will cheat will be broken beyond repair. They trust someone with their life's secret and then that someone break that trust. Maybe they never will be able to trust again. You don't want the burden of that on your conscience or do you?
6. There are pretty good chances that you might loose your friends over this also. I know it doesn't seem possible, but believe me it would happen.
7. Final and most important, how would you feel if your significant other did that to you. If you think deep down in your heart that you are gonna be okay with that, I don't suppose there is a reason for you to stop cheating, but i really think you would be anything but okay.

 Though we all accept that lying cheating etc all happen, but we mostly don't expect them to happen upon us. and there is a reason behind it.

5 Things You Should Know About People

(Well this is copied from somewhere. I liked it so thought to share.)

1. People want to be loved. Whether it’s by their family, friends or a lover, we just want someone to make us feel safe and important. Otherwise, we’ll feel like we’re broken in some way. We’ll blame ourselves for being alone when everyone else seems to be with someone. We want human touch, we want “I love you”‘s, we want to come home after work to someone we can eat dinner with. We need to feel worth it, we need to feel special, we need a place to go to for Christmas.
2. People want to fuck. This is different than wanting to be loved. The desire to have sex with another person exists in an entirely different part of your brain and people will spend obscene amounts of money to ensure that they have sex with someone. No, I’m not talking about prostitutes (hey girl hey!), I’m talking about your gym membership, your expensive haircut, your new jeans that make your ass look really great. These are all things we do in order to be perceived as desirable. We then go on dates and spend so much money on someone to increase our chances of getting laid. “If I buy you the lobster, you’re letting me do things to you tonight.” These are exchanges that are universally understood. In a way, we’re all whores when it comes to sex. Some people just ask for the cash upfront.
3. People have their own shit to work through. This seems fairly obvious but when you really think about what it actually means, it should flood you with a sense of relief. Your asshole boss is a nightmare but maybe they hate themselves or their mom drinks too much or they haven’t been on a date in five years. Whenever someone comes across as truly difficult, I try to think about what kinds of stuff they’re dealing with. Chances are they’ve been up emotional shit creek without paddle. That makes their acid tongue more bearable.
4. People often hurt themselves the most. This is a difficult and sad concept to grasp. But whether it’s through addictions, dating the same jerk over and over or not realizing that we’re great, we are often the root of our problems. People like to play the blame game and scapegoat their issues on to something else like their childhood and parents. While that’s all very understandable, there must come a point in everyone’s life when we have to take ownership and realize we have the power to change things. It’s like we spend so much time avoiding ourselves and then when we finally acknowledge it, we’re like, “Oh, okay. Now, I know how to fix things!” We’re all fucking crazy. Don’t beat yourself up about it. I know everyone wants to appear well-adjusted but we’re all just silently losing our shit.
5. Secretly we all just want the simple things, which is health, happiness, and love. Tell that to a twenty-something hipster and they’ll be like, “Um, no. I want the new Phillip Lim collection and my own column in Nylon!” And maybe in that moment, they really do want that, but they also would just give it up to be loved and be happy. This might be embarrassing to admit but it seems to be overwhelmingly true. Would you give up all the static for a warm house in the country with your # 1 babe? Maybe not, but as you get older, you will become less fulfilled by the distractions and the noise and the power lunches and the boring conversations and the parties. There’ll be a point when you’re done being surrounded by everybody and just want to have a few somebodies.

By Ryan O'Connell